Loss of sexual interest (polarity) in the relationship

The first phases in a relationship are usually coupled with a lot of energy, known as ‘New Relationship Energy’ or NRE for short. Sexual energy is usually abundant and things are easy. However, couples who are together for longer often experience a dip in their sexual interest or energy. This can also show in a lack of sexual interest or the longing for that first period or even for someone new/else with whom to feel this energy again. Of course with a new partner, this pattern will also set in. Some people then resort to opening their relationship or adding a third, but without the connection between the two initial partners, the chances that this will result in a lot of extra stress and problems are very high. 

In my relationship coaching, I have an open-minded approach to open relationships and kink, and I use the knowledge about energy from a Tantric perspective to coach couples to find back their attraction and connection with each other. 

If a couple wants to open the relationship and it seems to be the right time, I can support them in setting up a good framework to raise the chance of success and lower the risk of conflict. 

Tantra can be a way to regain closeness and connection with the partner. This type of Tantric coaching can also work if there are issues like erection problems, premature ejaculation, loss of sensitivity, being unable to orgasm, guilt and shame around sexuality, sexual trauma, and frigidity but also body issues and insecurity.

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Twin Flame relationship difficulties

Twin Flame relationships are relationships between two people who are basically one soul in two bodies. The reason why they incarnated this way is to help speed up the awakening process of both of the partners. They are each other’s mirror and that can cause quite a lot of friction. A Twin Flame relationship is different from a ‘normal’ or Soul Mate relationship because the function of this relationship is to uncover all the areas where growth is still needed. This means Twin Flames will trigger each other HARD to uncover the areas where they can still improve so that the soul is learning the lessons faster for either the ascension process or to start living the life that your Soul came here to live. 

As I am in a Twin Flame relationship myself, I can help people from lived experience, and with my empathic abilities, I usually feel what is needed in both partners to make this relationship more aligned. 

It’s also possible that someone is already in an established relationship and then meets their Twin Flame. This can create a lot of instability, confusion, and emotional pain in the existing relationship and/or in the person who feels the connection with the other but can’t be with their other half.

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Difference in Spiritual interest/level

Generally, women are more in touch with their emotional and spiritual side than men which can create friction in the relationship. Of course, it also happens the other way around and in same-sex relationships. The more spiritual partner might not feel supported or understood, maybe even not dare to share their experiences for fear of being judged or not accepted by their partner. On the other side, the less spiritual partner might not understand why their partner is not fulfilled, acting ‘strange’, or keeps themselves engaged with ‘unnecessary’ and intangible matters. They might even think what their partner is doing is dangerous or they might worry they are losing their minds. 

It can feel impossible to explain to the less spiritual partner why there is an insatiable desire to grow spiritually or, if not recognized as spiritual seeking yet, why there is a feeling of being unfulfilled no matter how good the relationship seems to be. Spiritual incompatibility can break the relationship and therefore it is sometimes advised to find professional help. I coach couples (or one of the partners if they are not ready to come as a couple) on how to deal with this discrepancy in Spiritual aspiration.

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